Man. She melts your heart, and then she steps on it.
Thank you for spelling out why Chris Brown is such a giant ass. I too want Jay-Z to fold him up like a lawn chair. He’s not even a real musician, just some guy who can dance a little like Michael Jackson.
The minute you said it was an Alaia I started fake crying while saying “and he forced me to ruin my dress.” I wish that scenario wasn’t possible for Rihanna, but considering who her date is… And unlike Cher, she cannot call Josh to come get her.
She does look fantastic. I like when she smiles. I just…yeah.
I wish we could all call Josh to come get us. Sigh.
I was just thinking, wouldn’t life be better if we could ALL just call Paul Rudd to come pick us up?!
Yes! This is the only reference I have for this designer!
She maybe, MAYBE looks the best she’s ever looked here?
Seeing it on the red carpet on TV, her nipples were definitely visible through that material. And I don’t like her hair. And I hate her boyfriend.
I just can’t get behind a red dress on a red carpet.
And in this picture, he is sitting like a gorilla. Dude, put your knees together and stop slouching. And are there really people who would defend him? Sure, people may speak up and say MYOB (mind your own business, as my 8th grade science teacher used to say), and fine, yes, it’s her business if she dates an asshole. But are there really people who think what he did was OK? Or do they defend him on grounds like, “We don’t have the whole story,” or “Well, she probably had it coming to her,” or other lame and prickish arguments?
Yes, there really are people who defend him – like the high school girls I taught when the whole thing happened. They said he could do whatever he wanted to them, too, because he’s CHRIS BROWN! Or they said that she probably provoked him, and so it was really her fault. These girls had some messed-up ideas about relationships, obviously.
No kidding. That’s appalling. I hope for their sake that they mature and realize how wrong they are. But unfortunately I think people like that are the ones who never do mature. *sigh*
Oh, go check out #teambreezy on twitter. It will make you vom.
Qwerty, you are so right. And notice that said gorilla seating takes up half of her seat as well, so she has to shove over? Of course. Of course he would.
Is karma real? Because he’s just itching for some.
I live in Richmond, Va., where he did some of his “community service,” and the sheriff’s office is in trouble for possibly approving his schedule without his having completed the hours. So, it’s possible he’ll have to redo the hours. I hope if he does, it involves work in a sewage treatment plant or something equivalent.
Or in the sewers themselves, like the scenes in Les Miserables.
Having done some work at sewage treatment plants I can safely say they are FAR too good for Chris Brown. Some seriously nice people work at those places doing a very essential and thankless job – I wouldn’t wish him on them at all!
His community service should just be to go into solitary confinement with no twitter, no validating attention and especially no art supplies…
I lived in Richmond (at VCU) when he was doing his supposed community service. What a joke. PS: Go Rams!
Sadly yes. I’ve seen numerous comments about how she had it coming because she’s skanky or has an ego or whatever other fault they can find with her. Or after his performance at the Grammys last year, loads of tweets about how they’d let Chris Brown beat them anytime. Which is beyond disturbing.
She really is a beautiful girl, and her solo performance was a reminder that she is also a really talented girl. I’m fine with all her outfits –love the red color on her and the two-piece is definitely just showing tattoos, not boob. As for the boyfriend…I can’t. He is most definitely a bad idea, and I think she knows it, but some people just don’t learn. I hope she outgrows it.
It makes me sad every time one of his songs come on and I like it before realizing its him. It also makes me sad that she took him back. I have a hard time supporting her at all because of it. BLAH.
“It makes me sad every time one of his songs come on and I like it before realizing its him. ”
I know that many singers don’t think they have to be role models, but she is a terrible role model regardless. Obviously, a part of her likes to be abused, or she wouldn’t have gone back with him. I would never, ever think any woman has it coming, or deserves a beating, but she cannot claim she didn’t know what he was capable of doing. She needs some serious therapy; she obviously hates herself to allow this. Healthy women don’t go back to men who beat the crap out of them.
I like all the outfits on her and LOVE the red Alaïa. Nice makeup, too, strong colors to stand up to the strong-statement clothes, yet without looking heavily applied or cartoony.
Hate the hair and those cheap-o fake nails. Obviously the worst accessory, however, is Chris Brown.
The red dress is lovely, but the hair…on TV it looked like a wig that was not quite properly fitted, but here in these pics it looks better, but somehow still not right for her. Perhaps it reveals too much forehead. I think that’s it.
Love the other two outfits two. And you are so right, Heather, about her voice. Singing a slow song with an actual melody, did wonders for her. I never really like her voice live before. Last night I was kind of impressed.
I can’t tell if it’s a wig or a weave, but you’re right, Tony, it is NOT properly seated on her head. That’s my main problem with it. I’m not nuts about these hair colors for her either, but hair has got to be properly fitted.
She was the most beautiful girl at the prom last night. And her performance was amazing.
She is absolutely stunning, but you know what? These pictures just underscore how young she is. She’s 24! I feel like we’ve been hearing about her for like 10 years.
You HAVE been hearing about her for 10 years… well, almost. 8 years. “Pon de Replay” was her big hit in 2005. Which seems like ancient history, I agree.
She looks beautiful, and I agree with everything you have said.
Its a complicated issue, and you really don’t want to blame the victim, but its just so hard to understand why such a beautiful woman would get back together with such a jerk. Unfortunately, it happens all the time. Also, its important to remember that there are many other famous men who like Chris Brown have been abusive and not been forced to play the consequences.
I think you stated it all perfectly, including how freaking great she looked.
Yes, there have been MANY other famous men who’ve been abusive and paid no consequences and no one even mentions their abuse. It gets a little uncomfortable when none of them garner anywhere near the vitriol that Chris Brown does. Which, don’t get me wrong, he deserves because he’s an abusive, violent jackass, but so are a great many other (usually white) men, so there’s a discomfiting undercurrent to the anger towards Chris Brown that those other men escape.
I don’t think it has as much to do with whiteness as it does with the fact that Chris Brown battered a woman who is as, or more, famous than he is, and it was exposed in an extremely public and visceral way. Offhand, I can’t think of any other celebrity abuser who has beaten, or been accused of beating, a woman of equal fame and status, at least not very recently. Sean Penn, maybe, but none of his wives had pictures of their bruised faces all over the Internet.
Which is an equally terrible thing to say, maybe.
I think it has to do with the fact that a lot of the other people are ALLEGED, and Chris Brown is confirmed. Like, it’s been documented.
Maybe Mike Tyson and Robin Givens, but yes, I think the fame of the victim is a factor that raises this to a higher level of scrutiny.
I think that’s mostly how people justify their kneejerk reactions to themselves, frankly.
She is so fantastically beautiful. I mean, damn. If I looked like that, I’d probably never be able to tear myself away from the mirror.
As for everything else…yeah, what you said. Sigh.
Well, she claims what happened was ‘not his fault’ and that it happened because he ‘has problems’ and ‘needs help’ and ‘should be helped and not abandoned’. In other words she thinks it’s her own fault she got punched about the face and throat. Also I really think she just wanted to prove she could ‘steal’ (for want of a MUCH better word) him from his at- the-time girlfriend.
And yes he continues to get into violent altercations with people, but as far as she’s concerned, once he doesn’t do it to HER, he’s a great catch. Hell, those incidents are ‘not his fault’ either.
She IS gorgeous, though. What a beautiful dumbass.
If he actually GOT help, that would be one thing. But instead he threw a chair through a window.
And punched a guy over a parking space. And verbally tore down & abused in a HIGHLY misogynist manner a twitterer when she brought his transgressions to light. And it’s always someone else’s fault.
I’m totally with you on this call, Heather. There are thousands of men who would line up to date and treat Rihanna respectfully. Why go back to this ‘troubled’ coward? And I don’t see that he’s made any progress either. He can’t seem to control his anger, even in public. Imagine what he gets up to in private.
Call me old school, too. This situation reminds me of a Women’s Studies 101 saying: We teach people how to treat us.
I can’t help feeling that her taking him back is letting him know that the violence was kinda OK.
It would be a deal breaker for me. One strike and yer out.
She’s one of those people who has to “make her own mistakes” or “learn from her mistakes”. I get that and everything, but everyone in the world has to be either sad for her/rolling their eyes at her because of this.
It bothers me that so many people are calling Rihanna a “dumbass” or an “idiot’ or a “nitwit”. Speaking as someone who’s been in an abusive relationship before, it’s not always as easy to walk away as people who have never been there think. Abusers do more than use their fists; they chip away at self-esteem. They can make the most intelligent person in the world think they’re an idiot; they can make the most beautiful person in the world think they’re a hag. It’s hard to believe from the outside, but abuse victims think that their abuser is the only person in the world who will ever love them, and so they keep taking it. Calling the victim nasty names only reinforces that belief and perpetuates the cycle.
thank you very much for this. I can sadly confirm everything you said.
Me too. While I don’t think that it’s anyone else’s business and Rihanna has never presented herself as a role model, I feel that much of her music (particularly “Unapologetic”) is a powerful and cathartic homage to that level of self-sacrifice and pain. I hope so much that he will (somehow, I don’t have the answer) stop being a dick.
Everything you said. She looked gorgeous, sounded gorgeous, but seems a little out of it, and I’m so concerned about her relationship with the biggest jerk alive. Also, I wish Miranda Lambert had called him out again. I feel like everyone just accepts him now, despite the bar brawls, and horrible interviews, and feuds… he’s a mess and I’m worried he’s going to Bobby Brown/Whitney Houston her
As someone who was in an abusive relationship for 12 years before I finally got the guts to get out, it makes me so angry to see someone who got out and then go back. He’s disgusting and continues to act out. Maybe I am bitter from my experience, but no they don’t change. They learn how to hide it better and then you learn how to hide it better too. I don’t see a happy ending to this relationship and a pretty dress isn’t going to solve her problems.
If it helps, I don’t think she ever really got out. I think they maintained contact and that she never really got him out of her system in order to start getting past it all and to that place where being a couple again would seem appalling to her. If there had been no press coverage she’d likely never separated from him at all.
I’ve never liked her as a performer or a person, really. I can’t deny that she is talented but I am not a fan of her music.
As for “minding my own business” about Chris – yeah, right. I think it’s important for people to talk about it and acknowledge she’s making a mistake. A guy doesn’t lay a hand on a woman. Period. And if he does, every woman has the right to bash him.
She does look great though..which if I remember correctly, is the topic we are on.
Sorry to comment not about fashion, but thanks for covering (and the way you covered) the ‘None of Our Business’ business.
Rhianna looks good, no doubt about it. The dress is perfect for her, the color is amazing, and her hair and makeup are beautiful for once.
However, draping herself all over that megalomaniacal, sociopathic douchebag just kills the look entirely.
heather, you are absolutely right. it’s horrible to see them together again. especially at the grammys. she was supposed to perform that year but then he assaulted her. really tragic.
on the fashion side: beautiful dress but i don’t like her new extensions, i really liked her shorter hair!
She looked and sounded great but Im just have a hard time with her. I hate him so badly that it’s making me hate her by association.
I’m going to be honest, I have reached the point of ‘they are both grown ass people who can do what they want.’ It’s sad, but I almost feel like paying any more attention to him in any way is like playing into a toddler’s tantrum- any attention is good attention in their opinion.
I will say I dislike him now for a whole new reason. He’s doing the Subway Spread, which is gross, rude, and unnecessary. No one’s junk is that big or needs that much air, bro, close your damn legs.
She looked completely stunning. Everything was perfect: the makeup, the hair, the dress…that colour is incredible.
And your point about Chris Brown is something I’ve been saying for so long. It would be one thing if he seemed even the least bit repentant. But how do you forgive someone who isn’t sorry?
It’s nice to see so many sane people on these boards. The people on other sites who defend him make my stomach turn.
I would slaughter bunnies for that dress. I. Love. That. Dress.
In my (warped) imagination, “Jay-Z IRL” is a kindly, jovial grandfather-type (yes I know he’s not old I don’t even know where that comes from) who occasionally has “Get of my lawn” moments when the youngsters get up to some shenanigans, so the image of him folding up Chris Brown and shoving him next to the fridge is delightful to me. Please, Jay-Z, make this happen!!! And Beyonce, please don’t be too hard on him about it. You have staff, they can clean up after.
Rihanna–beautiful woman, and I am really rooting for her. It is sad to see her get back together with CB, and not even getting into the myriad reasons women (and men, to be fair) get back together with people who have abused them, I turn again to my jovial Jay-Z grandpa character and hope that after he shoves CB behind the fridge, he and Bey invite Rihanna over for lasagna on the same night that they just so happened to have invited over his nephew who just graduated from Harvard Medical and is working at some fancy neurosurgery hospital in NYC. The SINGLE brilliant doctor nephew, hint hint elbow elbow nudge nudge.
I love everything about this comment and wish there was a Facebook-esque “like” button. Grandpa Jay!
You can see her nipples. At the risk of sounding rather old and grumpy, the fact a dress code was sent out stating that side-boob, under-boob, nipple, labia etc. should be covered, is a somewhat sad indictment of celebrities. Also, he’s an arse and she’s an idiot. With visible nipples.
You’re spot on with that assessment.
Also- “this is an ALAIA” “An A-WHAT-A??!”
“He’s like a totally important designer”
If it makes you feel any better, apparently, Jay-Z had a little chat with Chris Brown and told him that if he hurt Rihanna again, he would end Chris Brown’s career. Of course, Chris Brown claims that it didn’t happen, but we all say Jay-Z refuse to clap for him at the VMAs.
I think that Chris Brown is garbage, but if I were Rihanna’s friend, I would try to be supportive and make sure that she knew that she had a safe place to go if it happened again. The last thing you want is for an abused woman to feel like she has no recourse because people would say “I told you so”.
You’re so right about having support in this situation. Rihanna is 24 years old, thinking that Chris is the love of her life. She has watched her father do the same thing to her mother and rather than stop the cycle, she is repeating it. All you can hope is that her support system is there to help if things get bad again.
Sadly, not “if” – “when”
I think she’s scary skinny here. I hope things go well for her, I really do.
Chris Brown is the living worst and what we have right here is the terrible cycle of abuse. How romantic that they can be together on the 4 year anniversary of when her put her in hospital…cough. Poor girl, I just hope for her sake it doesn’t happen again.
“Bad idea pants” – MADE MY DAY! My girlfriends and I in college used to use this phrase from SNL to refer to various young men all the time.
She comes off as so confident and strong, but when ever I see them together my gut reaction is to think “Wow, she must have no self esteem.” Sad.
This. I think the whole projection of strength this is just a front. When you are really self-assured, you don’t have to do some of the nutty things she does to prove how tough and strong you are. No matter how much you loved someone, I can’t understand how any woman who knew her worth could go back to someone who did such a brutal thing to her.
I love Kate A’s suggestion, if the jerk is forced to actually finish his community service there can not be a more appropriate place than a sewage treatment plant!
Maybe we should all MYOB but Rihanna, whether she likes it or not, is a role model for thousands of young women. She has a responsibility to her fans to be a good example, let’s hope she doesn’t end up being a horrible warning instead.
It is SO HARD
stupid fingers pushing enter too soon!
It is SO HARD to leave an abusive douchecanoe. And to not get pulled back in. I hope she has safe space friends for when it turns out he didn’t really change after all.
Blaming her is counter productive, I think. Poor girl. I got out (after a few earlier attempts) when I was just 20 (so young to have that experience) and I know how hard it is to resist crawling back.
I agree with every statement you made about Chris Brown. But, I also have very little respect for her. She had 4 years of mulling it over and the entire world on her side saying it’s a bad choice, yet she goes back to him?
Also, did anybody see the bitch, diva face she gave her security guard when she got of the the car? She really seems like she thinks her life is above that of mere mortals.
Oh yea, she looks great I guess.
Why would anyone wear a ring above the knuckle like that? You don’t often have to say “go up a size” for jewelry, but if the ring won’t go over the knuckle, it’s too small.
It’s the latest thing. I think that one’s a bit chunky for it, though. I have a hankering to get a bunch of little fine ones, like these ones from Catbird: https://catbirdnyc.com/shop/home.php?cat=446
(Only probably off Etsy, where they can be had for less.)
Those would come right off me. I wash my hands ALL THE TIME. Impossible…
Nah, I have one of the little Catbird beauties and they stay on.
Blaming her is foolish. Getting out of an abusive relationship is hard enough. Factor in that they work in the same industry, and nearly everyone in that industry is acting like HE’S the one who’s had to overcome so much, and you can imagine the intense pressure she was feeling to “give him another chance”.
I got out of a bad relationship after only one really bad episode. And though I never gave him another chance, I would be lying if I said I never looked back, or thought “if only”.
I hope like hell she dumps his sorry arse.
As for the dress: she looks lovely. It’s a shame about the poisonous fungus in the tuxedo that’s hanging off her arm, though.
“I hate that it’s ACKNOWLEDGED and PROVEN that he did the crimes, and somehow he managed to avoid doing the time — emotionally, anyway.”
Legally too, since prosecutors are now saying his community service papers were faked and don’t match up with his actual proven schedule of when he was out of town on tour. I can feel the remorse and guilt, can’t you?
You have articulated PERFECTLY how I feel about this whole Rihanna/Chris Brown mess. Yes, it is her decision, and yes, her decisions make me sad. And were he to show some remorse or that he learned something from this experience, I might be a bit more forgiving. But if anything, the incident in 2009 has only opened up his douchebaggery/misogynist and homophobic beliefs all over the world, and he continues to be a more terrible person day by day. And that image of Jay-Z just ridding the world of him in such a comical fashion soothes the irritated feelings I have whenever Chris Brown is mentioned. So thank you for that.
He’s all ego and she’s all misplaced “self-esteem”, and neither has a working brain cell. That said, CB should not have beaten her and should have been suitably punished for doing so. But they are both juvenile inarticulate dumbasses. I think RF has no talent to speak of. Hell, *I* could “sing” with the all the “production” smoke and mirrors that RF product is smothered in. I hate that some of CB’s product is listenable, but I give him no credit for it. Anyone that ugly on the inside poisons all they touch.
I think she’s the only one in the world that he’s fooling.
Fantastic dress, shame about The Chris Brown. He is without doubt one of the worst accessories ever. Worse than a patchwork bag or thigh-high red patent stiletto boots or both combined. He is the last thing that a girl should ever be seen in public with!!
Happy to see that Heather is wrong so far and a hundred people haven’t popped up in his defense. I agree with Lily that she was intent on proving she could steal him back from the other girlfriend. I know she’s young, but that’s a pretty low maturity level for 24.
if you feel old for your CB opinions then call me old too because I agree. He CONTINUES to make a fool of himself so he obviously hasn’t changed at all but what can one do? Well, laugh at Chris’s face cracking as he lost to frank. Amusingly both Adele an that Ed Sheernan(?) guy gave him a side eye for not standing when everyone else did.
That said, it was nice to see Rihanna just look ‘pretty’ instead of ‘interesting’ for once.
What really rubs me the wrong way is that for a while there not an article about her passed without her acting like some role model for battered women who’s come out of it stronger – and she made a lot of money off that – and now she’s making a lot of money selling their romance (‘It’s none of your business, but I’ll just post private pics left and right and sell albums singing about it’). No amount of pretty dress can erase the stink of nasty calculations and greed.
Yes, THIS!!! It’s all so calculated like when she gave that interview just as her album was coming out. I’m sorry but I just don’t care what happens to her anymore. She has a level of fame and resources that most women in that position do not. I just can’t…
The Rihanna/Chris Douchebag Brown situation is to me like Robert Downey Jr in his careening into disaster phase. You want so much for them to pull out of the skid, but in the end only they are in control of their lives. Like RDJr, we talk about her choices as an example to avoid. I don’t think that’s the same as blaming her, Rihanna is just the Case in Point of what not to do.
OTOH if Rihanna ever said to me “but I love him” or some such bs, I’d have words for her.
She is lovely, and looked lovely. And she employs Nuno Bettencourt, which should give her a lifetime pass from me. But the CB business? Ugh. I keep telling myself that she is young and foolish, and will hopefully grow out of it. Before something even worse happens.
You’re over-estimating her intelligence, like everyone else. OF COURSE she went back to him. She, like the nit-wit celebrities that are the most followed and popular in our culture, a la the K clan, have no brain cells and probably punctuate each sentence with “like” at least 75 times. She is an idiot, obviously, with no moral background or support. Trash. She can sing, but I would not trust her in a room with my dog. Or baby. Or even a parakeet. She’s kill them by hugging them. I have no feelings of sadness for someone like that. Now, if Kelly Clarkson or Kelly Osbourne, or even Beyonce, were to do the same with a man, then we’d have some talking to do. But, they have brains. Sort of?
>>Now, if Kelly Clarkson or Kelly Osbourne, or even Beyonce…<<
Kinda see what you mean; I think all of those women are reasonably smart, and it's true Rihanna isn't. But… what's she supposed to do, take smart pills?
At least she dressed well, for once.
I don’t want to cast aspersions on her intelligence — I don’t know her. I would suspect if she’s still with him, it’s an emotional struggle rather than her being dumb. It’s a dumb thing to DO, but not necessarily because SHE is dumb. She might just be… caught, or troubled.
No, not dumb because of this, intelligent women do the same thing every day. I’m basing the assessment on her published remarks, both written by herself and in interviews, print and televised. Not a brain in her head.
Which is not, of course, her fault. We get what we get in that department! It’s just that one can’t help but wonder, if this girl WERE bright, what might she do differently…
That is a pretty judgemental thing to say, Kate. I don’t think her “moral background” (and who is going to be the arbiter of that, anyway?) or her intelligence (to which I can’t speak, since I don’t know her) have anything to do with whether or not she, or any woman, gets abused. And “trash”?
Plenty of smart women who would be thought “moral” in many circles also end up in abusive relationships. For the record.
I’m curious to know, Kate, how exactly you know so much about the intellectual capablility of a woman you’ve presumably never met.
If you’re holding up her behaviour towards Chris Brown as an example of how smart she may or may not be, then I think you’re looking in the wrong place. Struggling to get out of abuse is not about intelligence. It’s about a cycle of emotional manipulation and false beliefs and it doesn’t matter how smart you are, it is really, really hard to get out of.
So: do I think her behaviour is unwise? Of course. Does that mean she has the IQ of a todder (as you seem to imply)? Not a chance.
I cannot stand the sight of Chris Brown, he makes me wretch. She looks stunning and I love the red dress (nips and all). I also love her lipstick and if I looked that good in that color lipstick I would wear it 24/7.
The spread legs- has to be one of my biggest pet peeves. Seems to be a mostly male thing. And it looks like heʻs encroaching on the space of the woman sitting on his other side, too. Rude, entitled, self-centered behavior. I canʻt even comment on the dresses, etc.
Thank you for giving him a scroll over name of “Lord Voldemort.” So perfect, so funny.
She looked fantastic, I think she was also subconsciously making up for the bad accessory aka Chris Brown. Maybe she thought if she looked stunning we wouldn’t notice him as a date. Plus happy Frank & Drake won & he didn’t karma
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To be honest, I can’t believe anyone is still talking about Rihanna/Chris Brown. Save the outrage and sorrow for women that truly get battered and try to change their lives. Based on everything I’ve seen from her, she’s trashy and putting out songs about S&M make it quite clear she’s no victim.
Being “Trashy” and putting out songs about consensual sexual fetishes does not make it ok for him to hit her or mean that she was (is?) not “truly … battered” – this is just another extension of the “she was asking for it argument and I am very sad to see that sort of thing here. I may not agree with her choices but the bottom line is that she is a victim.
Heather, I mostly endorse what you wrote in slide 2, but I want to make one little correction.
It’s not that he didn’t have remorse for what happened to her – it’s that he didn’t (and still doesn’t, really) have any remorse for what he did to her. It was his fists and his teeth that did that to Rihanna, on purpose – and while, yeah, people can change, he’s just gone on to capitalize on how much of a badass he is for beating the crap out of a woman. (Emphasis on the fact that it’s A WOMAN full stop – not just Rihanna.)
I’d say that I bet his mother is so proud, except I know she is.
Also, forget Team Breezy. Honestly, if you’re defending Chris Brown for…basically everything (miraculously, I believe he’s the only person in Hollywood that can make me feel sorry for a Twitter troll), you have no ground to stand on.
That is of course what I meant — not that something happened but that he did it. I appreciate the nit you’re picking, but I hope you know I meant it the way you described it.
I would like to quote Joan Rivers on Twitter.
“Tomorrow’s Grammy Awards’ dress code says talent is not allowed to show any ass. Does this mean Rihanna has to leave Chris Brown at home?”
I LOVE YOU JOAN RIVERS. Also, I would like to say again that i kept wishing LL Cool J would haul off and punch him in the face. Inappropriate? Yes. Satisfying? Yes.
I agree on so many points here…I really think she looked beautiful – especially in the red dress – but I just cannot get over the fact that she took him back. He gives me the creepy crawlies all over my body. And I too sometimes here a song and like it before I realize it is him. And I feel horrible because what he did to her should never, ever be endorsed, approved or said to be OK. And by taking him back, I worry a. she is not OK and b. other girls will think it is OK! With two daughters, they will know, this is not OK!
Lord Voldemort! so my kid was calling her schoolyard bully Lord Voldemort (until we talked about more effective coping strategies) but now… it all just seems so apt.
In terms of career success, she’s sitting on top of the world. So what’s missing within her that she thinks she needs this creep? I have a terrible feeling that he’s going to do it to her again, but this time it’ll be much worse. I hope I’m wrong.
I just cannot even deal with the Chris Brown of it all, but I need to talk about how gorgeous she looks with LONG HAIR. So nice.
this is the BEST that the 21st century Tina Turner has EVER looked. wow!
Some perspective please!
Firstly, both Rihanna and Chris Brown are still very young—clearly in love–at the same time, fabulously talented, wealthy people whose private lives are playing out very publicly.
Imagine if everything in your world were magnified through gossip magazines, twitter and social media. Never mind, the anonymous venom of posts like this one.
Secondly, make no mistake, in no way do I condone Brown’s behavior. Let there be no misunderstanding on that score.
However, did this constant vilification, name-calling, disgust and outrage extend to that other massively angry, out of control, wealthy, famous dude by the name of Charlie Sheen?
Sheen appeared on “The View” recently. The ladies of the show were fawning over him, flirting, as if holding a gun to his wife’s head a year ago never happened. Oh yeah–the crack cocaine, the “mistresses”, the sex addiction, the “I’m winning” never happened seemed to happen either.
Frankly, it irritates that no one can seem to get over Brown’s one episode and yet Sheen has over and over again proved to be a repeat offender and somehow the shit never sticks.
I have to say it out loud. This smacks deeply of a black/white double standard.
“Gorilla”. Community service in a sewer? REALLY?
I’m not young anymore, but it pains me to hear such unforgiving, judgement from young men and women. There is a lot of grey in the world and much we don’t know.
If Rihanna is making a mistake, its her mistake to make. She’s 24. She clearly feels strongly enough to give Brown as second chance.
Everyone deserves a second chance.
As for Rihanna’s Grammy look, I thought she looked outstanding.
The reasons for disliking CB have already been stated by everyone. He hasn’t shown any remorse and, more than that, he seems self-entitled and acts as if HE were the victim of all this situation. And the “it’s their business” would be more believable if they didn’t make statements and post pictures of themselves on twitter for millions of people to see (BTW did anyone else find pitiful that little video that CB made about his doubts between Rihanna and his then girlfriend?). So the fact that their lives are played out very publicly is a lot their own fault. Rihanna did look beautiful but that doesn’t make up for dumb choices.
Aaand here we go.
Really sorry to say this but all I can think about this whole thing is “new Whitney Houston and Bobby Brown” .
“Sheen appeared on “The View” recently. The ladies of the show were fawning over him, flirting, as if holding a gun to his wife’s head a year ago never happened.”
What on earth makes you think that if Chris Brown appeared on that show, he would not get treated the exact same way? They do this to all their guests.
It is a television show. Those ladies have a job to do. Said job is to get ratings and promote things and people.
They have said many times controversial things about Chris Brown, and it is important to note this includes defending him.
I’m not here to judge. I leave the judging to Judge Judy.
All I can speak to is my own life, and one slap was all it took for me to walk out the door, without shoes, just with the clothes on my back, my car keys and my handbag. I did not go back despite people (including my own family) telling me that I should.
What Rihanna sees in him I’ll never know.
I don’t particularly like any of the outfits and her obviously fake nails are so badly done that I’m embarrassed for her!
I wholeheartedly agree with your feelings about her “relationship”, GFY Heather!
Here’s the thing I don’t like about the whole Chris Brown thing…..I get that women return to their abusers but those women often have few options…they need the house or the money or they simply can’t get away because he makes sure of it. But she has all the resources in the world available to her and she SETS A HORRIBLE EXAMPLE FOR GIRLS EVERYWHERE. And yes, I do think it is a responsibility of hers to set a good example….she basks in the limelight and she needs to DO THE RIGHT THING WHEN SHE IS THERE.
I turn off his music every time it comes on…the music world has embraced him in a way that is completely blind and stupid.
To be fair, I don’t actually think it’s an entertainer’s job to do the right thing, support causes, set examples, speak out about politics, or anything else. No, not even if that entertainer has young fans. Rihanna’s personal choices are lamentable, for her, but to then wail OH BUT THE GIRLS WHO LOOK UP TO HER is placing something on her for which she should have no responsibility.
If an entertainer chooses to do that, fine. But it’s their right to do so or not. Rihanna does her job, which is singing and holding sponsored items in public, perfectly well.
You know, if she can influence girls of the world, then she can be influenced, and she WAS influenced throughout her life. So why is it she’s expected to buck all of the crap life throws at women, and black women in particular, with the supremely ironic reasoning of “she sets a bad example”? You don’t get to claim that she can affect young girls with her actions but that she herself is immune to the negative influences she could counteract.
It’s very heartening that so many people- not you, Anne!- see the truth of Chris Brown and Rhianna. Save for all those who call her stupid, there’s a pretty elevated understanding of the abusive relationship, which has nothing to do with intelligence, and everything to do with emotion.
This gives me hope that people will boo him in the street. Whether Rhianna gets the support she needs to see the truth and leave is unclear. She seems to get a lot of encouragement for staying by people who have no clue. It’s the ones who justify his actions, who call her stupid and call it a ‘fight’ and ‘private’ and the worst one, ‘love’, who make it easy for her to slip back into the role.
Reread her account of the beating, then see Leslie Morgan Steiner’s TedTalk about her life as an abused woman. Educate yourself about the reality of abuse and maybe you can be there in a real way for some woman in your life.
I don’t think we need to say NOMB when people have been hurt. It is our business when people are hurt. I want the best for women, people, everywhere, and based on most of the comments posted, Fug Nation wants that too. All I’m saying.
respectfully disagree (not on Chris Brown, he’s the devil) ..I thought the bodice of the red number was gorgeous, one of the only dresses I’ve seen the successfully pulls off the translucent idea.
I am totally with you Heather, both on the gorgeousness of Rihanna in that red Alaia and the heartbreak of seeing her with Chris Brown. I guess she needs to make her own mistakes, and unfortunately plenty of women do, but I really wish she wouldn’t.
yes she is pretty and probably the best i have seen her look in a long time…but you are correct that it is completely ruined by that animal with her. But I guess the next time he beats her everyone will just sigh and say its her business…to which I say yes indeed…just dont press charges and cry to the tabloids when it does happen…he beat her once and he will again just keep taking it and keep your mouth shut…no sympathy for any woman that would allow that to happen to her and go back for more not in this day and age.
WHOA. And YIKES, clicked “Thumbs Up” when I meant to click “Thumbs Down”. That is all.
I think she looks gorgeous if a little on the thin side.
Chris Brown is such a romantic. My favorite is number 8.
Oh my…she looks desperately skinny in the black outfit.
With a forehead like hers I’d recommend a hairstyle with bangs. Besides that she looks great, loove the red dress !
I was in love with everything about Rihanna at the Grammys! She looked absolutely stunning on the red carpet, but also looked gorgeous during her two performances. She needs to dress and do her hair and makeup like this more often!
“a hundred people are going to pop up in the comments and say that I’m old and judgmental and wrong and a jerk”
– if you are these things, then so am i, and most of the women i know. perhaps i should say … most of the women of a certain age. it’s true, we’re usually older than those who think this is no big deal, but i’d venture to assert that’s because we’re old enough to know better.
I hate that he (or any man) sits with his legs wide open like that. Gross. It’s just about as inappropriate to me as if a woman was doing it.
Rihanna looks great. Love the red dress.
Rihanna looked lovely. She and Chris looked high; maybe that’s keeping him from being violent, but I don’t believe he’s changed. I hope Rihanna’s aware that her support base is shrinking mightily. The longer she stays with him (after physical violence and humiliating cheating!), the better the chances of history repeating itself.
You’re so right – but one correction: you make reference to Chris Brown not acknowledging “what happened to her.” But even that phrasing dances around the problem. It’s not “what happened to her, it’s “what HE DID to her.” It’s sneaky how even the language we use unwittingly softens the, erm, blow. Let’s describe it for what it is.
OMG I also though of Cher the minute I read Alaia and I really really hope I could calll Paul Rudd to pick me up! I love that movie, best movie ever! Now, onto Rihanna, she has never looked this good! I love her hair,it’s finally back to normal! I hate to admit that this may be because she’s back with him, she said she had gone crazy and dark and stuff because she was depressed because she forced herself to be apart from him even though she still loved him and that now she’s finally happy again..I really really hope he has changed and will never harm her again!